12. "Wow, twins, rather you than me."

Do you know what, when I first found out I was having twins, I would rather it had been anyone other than me. Anyone at all. So long as it wasn't happening to me. I was terrified and full of dread. It felt, at times, like a big burden. I was in shock. I'm not proud that I felt like that. But I did. 

The sonographer scanned me and said; 'well the good news is your pregnant, and the other good news is there are two of them.'

My response was; 'that is NOT good news'.

But now, when people say 'rather you than me' (and thankfully it hasn't happened too too often), my immediate response (in my head) is "yes, I'm glad it happened to me and not to you". 

I guess that says it all, and answers the question most twin parents ask, of 'does it get easier?'


  1. StorytimemumJuly 20, 2012

    I used to get that as well! My stock reply was a pretty sarcy "well, good thing it is me, then"
    and yes, it does get easier- in the same way as having a singleton gets easier as they get older,I imagine- but also as they get older people seem to be less curious/opinionated/weird about twins.
    It possibly helps that mine are non-identical so when we walk down the street maybe it isn't so apparent.
    My father in law and his brother are identical and at age 67 still draw comments!

  2. AnonymousJuly 29, 2012

    I find this comment really offensive when people say it to me. I find it hard to refrain from replying with "yes I'd rather have my kids than yours!"